Where did the time go? I ask myself this question every time I see pictures of my kids when they were little, which is pretty often. Parents do that. We can’t help it. There’s something about those chubby, baby cheeks that tends to make us wax nostalgic, sometimes to the chagrin of our kids.
But there is something about the passage of time that confounds us all. We can’t believe so much of it has passed, when it seems like very little of it should have.
Now your child is turning 20. He has come to the end of his 7 year adventure. He is no longer a teenager. How can this be?
It’s funny how people dread the teen years, but then mourn when they are over. Is it because we wanted to enjoy them more than we did? This is the main reason I began writing about this topic. I want to encourage parents to enjoy those years before they sneak by us like a thief, and sneak by us they do.
Those decade changes can throw us all for a loop. They seem to make us feel like we age 10 years instead of just one more day. The same could be said for your teen turning 20. You are now a parent of someone in his 20’s. Let that sink in for a moment.
This new role we have now of parenting an adult is developing more with every passing day. Oh, sure, they are considered adults at age 18, but they are still teenagers, still kids, and they still need parenting. Here is a great article about that.
At the tender age of 18, they are old enough to vote, and when you register them for college, you are basically told that you have been permanently cut out of the loop when it comes to any communication about your child. Your child. It doesn’t matter if you are paying the bills, or if they are still on your insurance. You are cut out, and the only way to stay informed about anything is to have a good relationship and good communication pathways with your now-adult offspring.
My son is just about to have his 21st birthday, which means his seven year adventure came to a close one year ago. He is now about to enter the world of real, bona fide adulthood. Twenty one. Graham calls it “adult level 2.” I am still reeling from the speed at which that one came. I know he is a grown up guy now. He has been considerably taller than I am for the last 9 years or so, but to me he is still a kid in so many ways.
Not really, though. He is actually very self-sufficient, and for that I am truly thankful. He has become a solid, responsible, hard-working person, with a fantastic sense of humor and a kind, compassionate heart. He makes excellent grades, and he pays his own bills. He is transitioning into adulthood with flying colors. I am thankful to God every day for allowing us the blessing of Graham.
As a mom who has seen two teens transition into their 20’s, I absolutely understand the feelings you might have about this time in your child’s life. My shoulder and ear are here if you want to share. If you are the parent of a twentysomething, you really deserve to be congratulated. You made it! You navigated the teen years and helped your son or daughter navigate them, hopefully with a good amount of success. You have cultivated the ability and understanding to give other parents support when dealing with issues that arise with their teenagers.
I hope you have enjoyed your child’s 7 year adventure, and that your son or daughter is looking forward to an exciting life journey. If you have any words of wisdom or advice to give other parents, I would love for you to scroll down and leave a comment in the section below. As always,